Most people quit physics at the first opportunity that presented itself and as such not many of us would appreciate a combination of two of the most difficult subjects known to man, marriage and physics! However, the physics has been simplified, but the marriage….. well it stays as complicated as ever!
Newton’s first law of basically states two things;
• An object at rest will remain at rest unless acted upon by an external force.
• An object in motion will remain in motion unless acted upon by an external force.
Newton’s second law basically states that;
• The change in momentum of a body is proportional to the force applied to it and will always be in the direction of the force applied.
Newton’s first law is about inertia while the second law is about momentum. Now that you are as confused as everyone else in class, let’s see how these two great physics laws apply in our marriages.
To begin with the first law, it basically tells us that our marriages remain the same unless affected by external forces. If your marriage is good, it can remain good so long as no external force interferes. On the other hand, a difficult marriage remains difficult unless it is impacted by an external force. In many ways it would be best to leave marriages in a state of inertia especially when things are good. We let the marriage stay where it is, moving at a constant velocity in the direction our creator meant marriage to move towards.
Unfortunately that fairy tale story cannot happen so long as we live under the sun. There are a million and one forces impacting our marriages everyday from everywhere and in every direction. This means that no matter how hard we try, our marriages can never remain at rest or at the same velocity for too long because there will always be an external force acting on us as individuals, as a couple or even as a society.
That takes us to Newton’s second law. When applied to marriage, it simply means that the inevitable forces impacting our marriages will actually determine the direction our marriages take. If you allow your marriage to be impacted by a force that is negative in nature, your marriage will immediately take the direction of the new force in your relationship and acquire a negative direction! On the other hand if your marriage is impacted by a positive force, it will automatically take the direction of new influence. Determining the forces you allow to impact and influence your life is therefore an important contributor to the success or failure of your marriage.
The forces that impact our relationships come from everything we see, hear and experience. This can be in the form of reading (yes, this article is a force that will impact the direction of your marriage) media such as movies and pictures, experiences and interactions with others and many other ways. The impact of the forces influencing our marriages is not only with regards to direction but also force. Remember that the second law determines that change in momentum will be proportional to the force influencing it (our relationships). If a huge negative force comes in, it will cause a significant shift in a negative manner while the same is true to a huge positive force.
Identifying negative and positive forces is therefore our biggest concern as married couples for they will determine the direction our relationships take and the speed at which our marriages become better or bitter. While there are plenty of forces that are obviously good or bad, the biggest danger lies with those innocent looking forces that often do the greatest damage. Something as innocent as listening to a radio show that consistently depicts marriage in a negative light while exalting promiscuity, will surely impact your marriage in a negative way. Carefully evaluate all the forces you and your partner are exposed to and work to increase the positives so that they may always overcome and overwhelm the negatives that may try to impact your marriage!
There you have it, learning physics is good for marriage! 😉
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